Wedding Speech Advice

So, you’ve been asked to give a speech for the wedding! Giving a speech is such an honor, the couple is asking you to not only share your stories and your love for each of them, but they are asking you to share your wisdom with their wedding guests! They are asking you to participate in their love story by sharing intimate stories, funny memories, and heart-warming moments with everyone they are celebrating with.

Whether you’re the Best Man, Maid of Honor, Brother or Sister…It can be a huge responsibility to give a speech at a wedding. There can be a lot of built up nerves and anxiety around it! I want to give you a few pointers to help relieve your anxiousness. 

It’s always a good idea to have a few of your ideas outlined and written down. You can go the very traditional route and have it written out on a notecard or you can just use the notepad in your iPhone. This way you can always have in front of you a certain flow of what you want to say rather than forgetting once you’re up there!

With so many people looking at you, it can be easy to become overwhelmed and feel flustered. If you happen to go off track from what your notes say, don’t worry.. nobody else knows what is written on that note card! Just roll with it! Don’t make it known that you messed up, because nobody in the room will know the difference. Plus, they’re all probably thankful that they don’t have to be talking in front of a room of people!

When you’re making a speech, remember that you’re talking for about 3-5 minutes in front of the wedding guests! What can easily happen is the speech get so off track about “that time when we went through the drive-thru at Sonic..” and all of a sudden you’re talking for more than 10 minutes! You want to avoid giving too long of a speech because you don’t want the wedding guests to become bored.


If you’re looking for basic talking points, here’s a few to help you get started!

-Thank you to the friends and family for the beautiful wedding

-Introduce yourself & share insight on your relationship with the Bride/Groom

-Sentimental/funny stories from the past

-The growth of the relationship between the Bride & Groom

-Happy wishes for the start of their adventure together!

With your glass of champagne in hand, you’re ready to rock this speech! Cheers!

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Alix McCrory